How in the world could I have allowed my household finances get to this point? If this is a question you are now asking yourself, then you are financially miserable in your marriage. You have allowed yourself to become so financially dependent on someone else's money that you can no longer pay your bills, believing that he always would, things do have an uncanny way of changing. If the marriage is already in trouble the added burden of finances isn't going to help and the bills aren't going away without being paid.
A good marriage is hard enough to hold onto without finances getting in the way. Finances play a very important part in a marriage and responsibility of them has to done by one of you. If one or even both of you work, at least meet each other half way with money management because if you don't you will eventually run into financial despair. The tension will start then the arguments and fights over who spent what on what and why will be next.
Money may be the "Root Of All Evil" but the bottom line is still you need it to Survive.
Bills need to be paid and paid on time on a regular basis. When this fails or someone stops making an attempt to pay or stops paying altogether Look Out, it just Hit The Fan. Whatever the cause, yelling, name calling or finger pointing will not solve the situation. Financial stress can be overwhelming, it has been known to cause in my case, serious health problems from the worry. You will become a bundle of nerves, unable to eat or sleep from that worry. Financial worry can cause turmoil, tension, heartaches and unhappiness leading you to live in a miserable marriage.
Mostly all problems can be worked out, finances can be too, if you both work at it, cut spending and try budgeting then saving, working together may save you from financial misery in your marriage.
Melanie Meyers gives tips on Marital finances in an Unhappy Marriage in her ebook and on her blog at http://www.blog.miserableunhappywives.com
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